THE MINISTRY OF RECONCILIATION

The Ministry of Reconciliation

Lately I have seen a scene played out over and over again. At times this scene has been played out Biblically and at other times it has not been played out according to God’s design.
Scenario 1:
1. A problem occurs between two believers. Something is said or done to offend you or someone else.
2. A decision is made to confront the offender. You decide to discuss the issue with the one that has offended you.
3. The problem is addressed and a solution is found. Everyone goes away pleased at the outcome.
Scenario 2:
1. A problem occurs between two believers. Something is said or done to offend you or someone else.
2. A decision is made to avoid the problem and move on. The problem is you can’t move past the hurt. Therefore you harbor ill feelings toward the one who offended you.
3. The problem is not addressed and you go away mad and hurt.

15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
Matthew 18:15-17

What does this passage teach us? How do we reach reconciliation with a believer when we are wronged? Very simply put: if a professed Christian is wronged by another, he ought not to complain of it to others, as is often is done, but he should go to the offender privately, explain the matter kindly, and point out the offense. IF we actually followed the guidelines given in the Bible, we would most of the time get the desired outcome. Then the parties would be reconciled. We often choose the easier less productive path and just push away any idea of conflict resolution. In 100% of the occasions that we do not resolve conflict, anger and hurt and bitterness grow. Actually, the act of conflict resolution is solely for reconciliation between two believers. We should always be seeking to offer forgiveness simply because we were forgiven by God for much greater offenses.

I pray that we will begin a lifestyle of seeking to resolve issues in order that God may be glorified in our relationships. When the world sees this process played out Biblically, they are drawn to Christ. When we do not follow this sure-fire solution plan, the world is turned away from Christ.

With Christ’s help we can conquer all disagreements!
Aaron